Sexuality: 11 things you need to know about the male and female orgasm. How long is the male orgasm compared to the female one? Sex differences and statistics
When we have intimate relationships with a partner, we don’t care about how long our partner orgasm or orgasm lasts, but we obviously care about reaching the peak of that pleasure. However, the universe of sexuality is experienced differently from man to woman, and this is well known. What we do not know, for example, is how that particular moment of bodily and mental stasis is experienced by man or woman.
But we know, really, what is orgasm? How does it happen? Of course, those who have experienced such pleasure, I hope almost all of you, know on average what we are talking about but, seriously, have you ever really focused on what an orgasm is? How is it experienced by man and how, instead, is it experienced by the woman? Questions that science and psychology have been able to explain. Before discovering the 11 things that (maybe) you don’t know about orgasm let’s clarify what an orgasm is and how it happens.
What is orgasm and how it is experienced by women and men
Orgasm is a psychophysical situation that it brings the individual, both male and female, to the maximum degree of expression of erotic-sexual pleasure. It is also the final part of the so-called “ sexual response cycle” which consists of three phases: excitement plateau and precisely, the orgasm followed by a fourth phase of relaxation of sexual tension ( resolution ). This path has been identified and described by William Masters and Virginia Johnson the founders of modern sexology
More in detail, there is a phase still before excitement, the phase del wish in which the man and the woman activate the cognitive part with respect to sexuality through the imagination; in the phase of excitement, on the other hand, the more bodily part is activated and more linked to the physiological response of sexuality (erection in humans and lubrication, for example, in women), following erotic and physical stimuli and sensory stimuli . The continuation of physical excitation, called plateau is the presupposition of orgasm, the maximum peak of “sexual response cycle” followed by the phase of resolution where there is a return to normality and a state of calm, coinciding with a detumescence of the corpora cavernosa regarding the penis and a non-lubrication with regard to the woman. But how does orgasm occur in women?
In women, in the stage that precedes orgasm, the vaginal walls are lubricated and the increase in blood flow in the spongy tissues causes a dilation of the clitoris, the small sensory organ within the genital apparatus, which protrudes outwards for the entire phase that precedes orgasm , the plateau phase. Near the orgasm, therefore, there is a decrease in the size of the vagina by about 30%, while the clitoris shrinks inside the foreskin. The orgasm is therefore the effect of a process of involuntary contractions which take place, due to the effect of some muscle bands, in the area of the vagina called the ‘third external ‘. And coinciding with orgasm there is also an increase in breathing and heart beats, the involuntary spasm of the feet and the cloudiness of the conscience. And in man, how is orgasm and how is it perceived?
In man, of course, orgasmic manifestations are more evident, since orgasm coincides with ejaculation. The achievement of orgasm in man is followed by a pause characterized by a momentary erotic and relevant insensitivity only for men (precisely) called refractory period .
The strong sensations that are felt at the level mental along with physical modifications make orgasm a rewarding, unique and easily recognizable experience. Who has tried it, knows it. Otherwise, it’s like trying to explain colors to a blind person. It is not possible. But now we come to the curiosities about orgasm. Things you may not yet know.
The 11 things you don’t know about orgasm
One of the things you probably don’t know about the universe of pleasure is that women win in duration while men in frequency.
- Female orgasm lasts about 20 seconds the male one “only” from 3 to 10 seconds. On the other hand, men have an orgasm in 95% of relationships, women only in 69%.
Things change with sexual orientation: while there don’t seem to be big differences in the rate of orgasms experienced by gay or straight men , lesbian girls experience 12% more orgasms than heterosexual ones, perhaps due to the longer duration of relationships (on average 30-45 minutes versus 15-30 minutes).
- Imagination for women is fundamental: for the man no. For a woman it also needs a powerful mental stimulus, erotic fantasies or a strong sexual interest for the partner. This means that women, unlike many men, are able to control pleasure delaying their peak until the last (there is no premature ejaculation in women). It also explains why the pharmaceutical companies that work on “female viagra” have so far not had Lorgasmo satisfactory results.
- The male and female brain area is identical when you have an orgasm: brain activation during genital stimulation (ie under arousal excitation) involves different brain areas in men and women, brain activity during orgasm is the same in males and females.
Furthermore, the lateral orbitofrontal cortex, involved in self-evaluation and self-control, “turns off” during the culmination of pleasure in both genders. This explains why we lose control in those moments. Finally everyone gets sleep after intercourse, due to the prolactin hormone peak, 4 times higher after a sexual act than after masturbation.
- the nocturnal orgasms are unisex: that feeling when you sleep, of dreaming of an intense intimate situation and of reaching orgasm is not, as once thought, only a male prerogative but, apparently , that even women do the same. 37% of women experienced them at least once in the past, and 30% had one in the last year.
- Men also have multiple orgasms: multiple orgasms, traditionally associated with women (which unlike men they do not need a refractory period, that is to say an obligatory pause, after pleasure) they are actually also possible in men: without ejaculation, just before or just after the “main” orgasm.
- Female orgasm does not perform the same function as the male one: If the male orgasm has a fundamental role in achieving ejaculation, and therefore in conception, the female does not seem to have an essential role in fertility. At the beginning of the twentieth century it was believed that the contractions caused by the apex of female pleasure carried more quickly the sperm towards the cervix, increasing the chances of conceiving ( theory of the suction ). But laboratory experiments carried out in the 1950s on some volunteers, which included artificial radio opaque sperm and scientific masturbation self-masturbation in front of an X-ray machine, have ruled out how it works. In the male case the link between orgasm and fertility is clearer: the “trained” sperm is more fertile than the one that remains for a long time in the testicles.
- The origin of orgasm: The sensory pleasure receptors are mostly located on the genital organs, but the deep origin of the orgasm is localized in the sacral spinal nerve (which forms from the spinal cord).
Lesions of this nerve can lead to erectile dysfunction, poor lubrication and reduced ability to reach orgasm. This localization helps to understand the true nature of orgasm, which is nothing more than a reflection of the autonomic nervous system, the same that controls other involuntary functions such as digestion and heartbeat.
- Orgasm cures hiccups: A clinical case described twenty years ago tells of a patient recovered from days of hiccups thanks to an orgasm. Sexual activity stimulates the vagus nerve, which controls the heart and digestive tract without our being aware of it. This is why sex is thought to be the best remedy for some forms of incurable hiccups.
- In the past, orgasm was prescribed as a cure for women’s hysteria: Because the couple’s embraces were for “her” often unsatisfactory, and discouraged and condemned female masturbation, women’s sexuality was asserted through an alleged mental illness: hysteria . Considered a typically female disease, due to a “displacement” of the uterus from its original location, it was treated with orgasm, to be reached with pelvic showers (in the image) or stimulation perpetrated by doctors. For the benefit of patients: at the end of the seventeenth century, hysteria was considered the most widespread disease of all, and at the end of the nineteenth century, it was said that treatment to cure it made three-quarters of doctors’ turnover, this until vibrators were not invented.
- Orgasm reduces cycle pains A study by the American university John Hopkins entitled The Science of Orgasm showed that more than two out of ten women masturbate more frequently during the cycle to relieve pain due to menstrual cramps.
- Orgasm makes the immune system stronger From a study it seems that people with frequent orgasms are also those with a higher level high immunoglobulin A (a type of antibody) in their saliva, and therefore have a stronger immune system than those with low sexual activity. If you want to avoid the flu and the various boring seasonal ailments, you already know what you have to do.