Check Out Your Intuition
Are you always nervous and unhappy at your workplace? Do you reflect this situation to the people around you? The researches say that 50% of them are arguing with their colleagues, 28% of them are yelling at people at work, and they have shut the phone to hundreds.
Work intensity, traffic, time management, longevity etc. whatever the reason, it is possible to provide a happy and peaceful working environment and therefore a happy and peaceful life.
Mike Fisher, founder of The British Association of Anger Management, listed the first six rules for controlling anger.
- Stop, think and try to see the big picture
- Accept that there may be different ideas
- Listen carefully (L.O.V.E.) Learn – in order to learn, listen. Observe – observe the body language of people. Verify – clarify information. Empathise – keep your heart open at all times.
- Use Support Circle: Try to talk to your colleagues who can listen to you when you need to talk to someone.
- Keeping a diary: Keeping a diary can help you discover a pattern of issues that are causing an irritation, and make changes.
- Dismiss events from personal perception: nothing that others have said or done is because of you, but rather their own reality.
Be aware of the signs: heavier, deeper breathing, vibrations of your voice / hands / knees, elevation in the heartbeat of the nervous break. If you notice this statement, do something that will comfort you immediately. Take fresh air, close your eyes and think of a place you like very much.
Take deep breaths from the diaphragm for effective anger control. To avoid excessive excitement, each breath should take 7 seconds, each breathing 11 seconds.
Try to be neutral, ask yourself that you do not perceive events too personally. Avoid reacting too fast in case you get angry, just wait. Ask yourself if this is going to be so important after 20 minutes.
- Send messages to keep your mind calm.
- If possible, remove yourself physically and mentally from the situation that annoys you.
- Go out into the open air, try to give a short walk.
- Yoga, meditation, swimming may be successful choices in reducing stress.
- Get a hobby that will comfort you.
- Listen to music or dance.
- Try to smell the relaxing aromatherapy smells (like lavender).
- You can also benefit from calming herbal teas (such as balm, chamomile tea).